The New Year

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

I know I'm a bit late, but I keep putting off writing a post about the New Year because honestly? I don't feel up to the daunting task of gathering pictures from the last year. I have thousands of pictures on my computer, and the idea of sorting through them all just sounds like torture.

Anyway - I did it! So here's a look back at our 2013!

January

Charlotte learned a new face, and we took her to the aquarium with Nana, Papa, Uncle Bryce and Aunt Sara!

February



Charlotte took her first airplane ride all the way to Florida!

March
Mommy and Daddy celebrated their first anniversary! Which weirdly enough I can't find any pictures from our weekend at the Trump in Columbus Circle.

April


Mommy went back to being a stay at home mom, and we had a couple play dates with Krista and Mikey!

May
 


Daddy said goodbye to his truck and Mama and Aunt Tina took Charlotte to the beach for the first time!

June



We celebrated Mama's birthday and Charlotte went swimming at Aunt Patti's for the first time!

 July




Mama, Daddy, Uncle Brandon, Aunt Tina (and baby Chase in Aunt Tina's belly!), and Charlotte took a trip to the Bronx zoo on what might have been the hottest day... ever.

August




Charlotte turned one and we celebrated - TWICE!

September



We found out we were moving and spent the ENTIRE month packing and driving back and forth to see Daddy who had already moved to start working. Also Charlotte started walking!!!

October 




We moved up into the mountains, and Charlotte spent almost the whole month playing outside!

November



Charlotte played in the snow for the first time and we celebrated Thanksgiving back in New Jersey!

December


 
  We celebrated our first Christmas in our own home with a Charlie Brown tree and a whole lot of spirit!

2013 definitely wasn't easy. Being new parents is hard, but we made it through the first year and that's an accomplishment if I must say so myself! We have a lot of changes coming up soon in 2014 (sorry, I can't share them with you just yet!) and I'm really excited to see where these new opportunities will take us. I hope everyone had a great year last year and I wish you all the best in 2014!
 
 
 
 
 









 

 

23 reasons I'm glad I got engaged before 23

Thursday, January 2, 2014

I don't know how many of you have seen this article, titled "23 Things to Do Instead of Getting Engaged Before 23" but when I read it, I got really upset.

In the article, the author makes it seem as though she looks down upon people who get married young. She claims that by getting married young, "It is a way for young people to hide behind a significant other instead of dealing with life's highs and lows on their own," and that sometimes she hates that she's single but then she realizes "that those friends are going to get knocked up and fat soon sssooo in retrospect, who really is winning here?"

I got so angry and hurt that that's how people view getting married at a young age. Not everyone has to agree with me and my choices but you don't have to look at it like it's a death sentence. I can experience just as much, if not MORE than my unmarried peers - and I get to do it with my best friend. 

Here's my version of her list. Reasons why I'm glad I got married before I did these things, why I don't think some of them are necessary, and things I think you should do instead (married or not). 

1. Get a passport - I got a passport when I was 12... my husband got his when he was 16. Even though we both haven't seen all of the places we'd like to travel yet - I think that's irrelevant. My mom and dad got married in their 30s and have been married over 20 years and still haven't traveled everywhere they want to go. At least now when I do travel, I get to bring Jordan with me and we can experience it together.

2. Find your "thing" - I don't think anyone has just one "thing" and even if they did I've already found mine, multiple times. I love to dance, so I did! For almost 18 years, and if I wanted to go back to it I could. I love to take pictures, so I got a DSLR and I still work on improving my skills to this day. And to be honest? If I had to pick one "thing" it would be motherhood. I LOVE being Charlotte's mom and if I might say so myself - I'm pretty darn good at it. I wouldn't have been able to be her mom without Jordan though!

3. Make out with a stranger - Why? Why make out with a random stranger when I can make out with my husband any time I want.

4. Adopt a pet - I don't see why you need to do this before 23? What if I don't ever want a pet? I mean, I do but there are people out there who don't and that's okay. I don't need to experience pet ownership before I get married, I can just play with other people's pets.

5. Start a band - that's just silly. If I have no musical talent then why set myself up for disappointment? Besides, my talent is getting a much better use by spending my time singing lullabies to my daughter.

6. Make a cake. Make a second cake. Have your cake and eat it too.  - I feel like getting married at this age has enabled me to "have my cake and eat it too" I get to go out every once in a while to a bar with my friends without feeling the pressures of "finding a guy" and enjoy myself and then at the end of the night I get to go home to a great guy no matter what. And as for the literal sense, I eat cake all the time - married or not.

7. Get a tattoo. It's more permanent than marriage. - When I got married I said vows. Those vows included "till death to us part" and I meant them. 

8. Explore a new religion - If I hadn't gotten married, I never would have had the chance to do this like I am now. I'm Jewish, Jordan is Baptist and we've both been exploring not only each other's religions but also Methodist and Presbyterian to discover which one (or which combination) is best for out family.

9. Start a small business - Here are the links to the Etsy shop for two of mine - both of which I started after I got married. CharlieandElle and HoneyAndHook

10. Cut your hair - If you're getting engaged/married to someone who doesn't support your decisions to change your personal appearance, then yes, you should wait on getting engaged. But my husband supports me no matter what I look like, and that's what marriage should be about.

11. Date two people at once and see how long it takes to blow up in your face - I'll give you one better, why not focus on the intimate relationship you've formed with one person and see how much better you can make it? 

12. Build something with your hands - I'll speak for Jordan on this one - since we got married he's improved his carpentry skills and learned how to use new tools all while making gifts for me. He made me a beautiful cutting board with scrap wood from a job at work and recently is working on a coat hanger for our entry way which he's put incredible detail into.

13. Accomplish a Pinterest project  - Why not take this once step further and develop a hobby? Include your spouse in this hobby and you've got a great chance to bond. 

14. Join the Peace Corps - I'm sorry, but doing charity work in another country does not prepare you for parenthood or marriage or anything else that comes along with being an adult. It makes you a person who cares and wants to help and that's great. But there are other ways my husband and I can help make a difference after we got married. Everyone should find a charity that they're passionate about regardless of their marital status, and get involved.

15. Disappoint your parents - If you haven't disappointed your parents by the time you're 23 - you're a saint. It's easy to disappoint your parents. If you want to do something that's going to change you - disappoint yourself. Failing at goals that you've set, or realizing you're not the person you wanted to be yet - these are the things that help us learn and grow up. The only difference is, when I disappoint myself I have someone who loves me unconditionally to pick up the pieces and tell me he's proud of me regardless and that's amazing.

16. Watch GIRLS over and over again - Binge watching TV shows is definitely not something I need to be single to do. Just ask my husband and the 5 seasons of Sons of Anarchy we watched in two weeks.

17. Eat a jar of Nutella in one sitting. - Ew, no. I love Nutella but that's disgusting. Why not instead learn moderation? When I met Jordan we both had a "finish everything on your plate" mentality. You know, like "I bought this bottle of Vodka for today so I must drink the whole thing" or "there's 12 beers left so I guess I'll have to drink them all." Growing up and experiencing life is about know that it's okay if you don't finish everything. It's okay if I have one cup of coffee today instead of 14. 

18. Make strangers feel uncomfortable in public places - I don't really know why anyone would do this - married, single or otherwise. I don't want someone to make me uncomfortable, so why would I do it to anyone else?

19. Sign up for CrossFit - This one should really say something along the lines of "commit to a healthier lifestyle" and I actually agree with it. Everyone should do this. The difference between someone who's single and someone who is married however is that I have a parter to help me reach my goal. Jordan and I can (we don't, but we can haha) set goals together in order to be healthier. I could cook healthier meals for us, and he could hold me accountable for working out. I have someone to be my partner in getting healthier and I like that a lot.

20. Hangout naked in front of a window - Mirror. Hangout naked in front of a mirror. Everyone should do this too. Before you can love successfully love someone, you have to love yourself. It's an ongoing process too. Your body will constantly change and your feelings about it will too. This is a big one for me, I still haven't lost the baby weight from Charlotte and because of that I don't feel great about myself. Lucky for me though, I do have Jordan and he's always there to reassure me that he still thinks I'm beautiful even when I don't. 

21. Write your feelings down in a blog - Uhhhhh... hello?

22. Be selfish - Why not be selfless? Do something for someone else. That's what marriage is all about, doing things for someone else because you love them. Jordan gave up everything for me and moved to New Jersey when we got married. If that's not selfless, I don't know what is. Being selfish will get you no where in life. There are times when it's okay to take care of yourself, but just being flat out selfish isn't even worth it.

23. Come to the Philippines with me for the Chinese New Year - Don't get my wrong, I'm glad the girl who wrote this article is experiencing things she loves - but so am I. I don't regret my decision to marry Jordan for a second. I knew from the moment I met him that I wanted to spend my life with him, and I didn't want to wait.

I'm not going to kid you all and act like I don't know the statistics about people who get married at a young age. I know that the divorce rate is high in America. I know that the highest percentage of those divorces are among people ages 20-24. But that isn't necessarily because people my age can't handle marriage, or haven't experienced life enough to settle down. It comes from unrealistic expectations of marriage, and people thinking that getting married is just a piece of paper.  There's a pressure to succeed that comes along with getting married these days, and that's hard to deal with. Everyone doubts you from the second you get engaged when you're my age and that's a hard standard to live up to. 

If we stopped assuming marriages would fail before they even started, they might actually succeed!

November Goals - a failure.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Okay so I never blog anymore because we've been so busy, but I thought I would quickly recap how badly I did at keeping up with my November goals haha.

1. Be more intentional about housework - I finally finished unpacking our bedroom, but it's still a mess. I do the dishes every day and clean everything downstairs occasionally but that's about it... pathetic!

2. Finally hang up our picture frames - HAHAHAHAHAH this one cracks me up. I hung up one picture... that's it. It looks worse than it did with no pictures.

3. Throw a "friendsgiving" - We didn't have a "friendsgiving" BUT we did have two friends over the day after Thanksgiving for pizza and beer!

4. Attend hot yoga once a week - I'm ashamed to admit that I've only been to hot yoga once. It was the first day I went, right before I wrote this post. I'd love to start going again but we just can't afford it right now.

5. Get a job - I DID THIS ONE! I got a job waitressing, so now I can finally start saving some money and buying the things I want!

Hopefully I can actually get some of these goals accomplished in December!

Gift Guide: Stocking Stuffers for Toddlers

Monday, November 18, 2013

November is flying by so fast I can barely remember what day it is. Tomorrow is my Father in Law's birthday (yay!) and that means Thanksgiving is rapidly approaching.  I started a new job this week so everything's been a little hectic in our house which probably isn't helping the rushed feeling of this November. Now that we're in our own home I have been DYING to decorate for Christmas. I find myself wandering over to the Christmas section of Walmart and every website whenever I get the chance.

Here's a few ideas for stocking stuffers for your littles this year!



Charlotte is all about the bathtub these days but our bath toy selection isn't very impressive. Hopefully Santa will bring us a stocking full of bath time fun this year!

November Goals

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Now that Charlotte's older, and our life is less exciting I've decided that once a month I'm going to sit down and come up with 5 goals for myself. That way I have something to work for in this super boring life I lead here in Tunkhannock, PA.

1. Be more intentional about housework - anyone who knows me even a little bit knows I don't clean. Never have, never wanted to. Now that I live on my own and no longer have my mom's cleaning people to clean my house - it's time to make a change. I've been pretty good about keeping the kitchen/living room tidy but my upstairs could use a little TLC. I haven't vacuumed our bedroom since we moved in... (eek!). We don't spend much time up there, but still!

2. Finally hang up our picture frames - our living room has 4 blank walls and they're KILLING me. We've only hung up once picture since we moved in and I'm so unhappy with it. I just can't figure out how to get them all up there.

3. Throw a "friendsgiving" - most of mine and Jordan's friends up here are still away at college, so I'm hoping that the weekend of Thanksgiving after we get back from New Jersey we can have everyone over for turkey and stuffing sandwiches, and other Thanksgiving leftover inspired snacks!

4. Attend hot yoga once a week - I went last Saturday and I LOVED it. This weekend Tina and Brandon will be here so I won't be able to go on Saturday but they have classes almost every day of the week so hopefully I'll be able to attend at least one every week this month.

5. Get a job - I have an interview on Thursday, plus I've been applying all over the place so hopefully I can get a part time job and FINALLY have a little extra spending money because I really want these bad boys!

Wish me luck!

Love List

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

*inspired by Little Baby Garvin

I hope everyone had a great weekend, I'm sorry we've been slacking on posts lately but I promise we're back for good!

First of all, how cute is my little buggy in one of her Halloween costumes!?
 
1. Baby UGGs. Aunt ME bought Charlotte her first pair of Bailey Buttons and I am loving them. They slip on and off and keep her feet warm even when we're just running outside to get the mail. Charlotte doesn't scream when I'm putting them on - so that's a plus too!

2. The appearance of Christmas apparel on the Baby Gap website. I mean, look at these pajamas! I'm all for Christmas pajamas, and we're totally getting a matching set this year - regardless of what Jordan says.

3. The view from where I live. I never really noticed how nice it is in Tunkhannock because we were usually just passing through. Now that we live here and I have the chance to really look around... the views are AHMAZING.

4. Recently we've been talking about switch Charlotte to a big girl bed. Of course that means I get to shop for big girl bedding! I'm loving this Ever After set and this Mermaid one from the Land of Nod but there's no way Jordan would let me spend that much on bedding. They make a toddler bed set which is cheaper but we're not sure if we're gonna get a toddler bed or just jump right to a twin bed but either way I'm loving the opportunity to shop for new decor for her room!

5. Christmas/Hannukah shopping is officially in full swing. I'm swamped with trying to figure out what to get people (especially since Hannukah is in three weeks!) but I love buying people gifts so I'm super excited! We're thinking about a kitchen for Charlotte but our apartment isn't exactly huge and we're looking at getting a washer and dryer so I'm not sure where we'd put it but I think she'd love it!

6. Anything baby boy. Tina and Brandon's baby is due next month and I've been online browsing like CRAZY for baby boy clothes. I cannot wait to have another baby around to shop for! :)

Settling in...

Moving is hard. I don't care what your situation is - single, married, one babies, twelve babies - it's a hard process.

We've been here almost a month and we still haven't fully unpacked. There's only a box or two left but stillllll!

Charlotte's adjusted really well. She loves her new room, and I've baby proofed the whole downstairs so she basically has free reign which is way different from my mom's where we had her gated in.

Today my neighbor is coming over to meet us which is nice. This weekend, Tina and Brandon are coming and then my Mom and Aunt Me are coming right after. Thank goodness, some adult interaction!

I've been neglecting my blog lately because I just don't have the time anymore. I promise I'll try to keep updating whenever I can!


Miss you all!

Update

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Well, the good news is we're finally all moved into our new place. The bad news is we still haven't finished unpacking. :(
Mine and Jordan's bedroom is the only thing left but we're so tired of unpacking we keep putting it off. Hopefully we'll be able to finish it this weekend!

In other news, here's some pictures of Charlotte playing in the leaves at Nana and Papa Fair's house.











Welp! It's official!

Friday, October 4, 2013


In just a few short weeks, Jordan, Charlotte and I will officially be residents of Tunkhannock, Pennsylvania.

Population? 1,800.

Keep in mind, I currently live in a town with a population of 99,500.

Culture shock? You have no idea.

It's such a beautiful little town though!

The good news is, we'll only be 20 minutes from my in-laws. This means I can finally go back to work, my Mother-in-law is ready and willing to watch Charlotte while I get a job. Also, Jordan and I will finally be on our own. After two long years, we will finally have our own space. We definitely appreciate everything my parents have done for us, but it's time for us to be a family by ourselves.

I'm excited for this big change in our lives, and I cannot wait to get settled into our new place!

The Idiots Guide to Dating Another Couple (a.k.a. how to make friends who you're married)

Thursday, September 26, 2013

One thing you'll notice (or may have already noticed) is that when you get married, every friendship you had while single will change. Some people will become closer friends while others, even friends you've had for years will fade off into the distance.

Keeping friends you already had is hard, but making new friends once you're married? Damn near impossible. Especially at my age.

When you make new friends and it's just you, you only have two personalities that need to mesh. But when you're making friends as a couple, suddenly there's four. Finding four different personalities that all work together is quite challenging.

Months ago, an old friend of mine moved home from Hawaii with her husband. We hadn't talked in years but after she got a job at my place of work we began to realize how much we had in common. Once we made plans to hangout as couples, the real worries began.

If you know my husband, you'll know he's not the most outgoing. It's hard to tell how he feels about people because he's not exactly outward with his emotions. After work one Friday we all met for dinner and my stomach was in knots. Could this be it? Would we actually make friends finally?

We got there before them and when they walked through the door this was literally me:

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After dinner we got into the car, Jordan looked at me and said "I really like them." But deep inside I thought to myself "they probably hate us." I just pictured the conversation with her at work on Monday like this:




Lucky for us, that wasn't their reaction and we then continued onto our second, and third date. We haven't exactly made it Facebook official, but it seems we've officially found our couple "mates."


Unfortunately, as with regular dating, jealousy can tend to be a factor. Have you ever made friends with a couple and tried to make plans with them, but they're busy? Then you find out they were hanging out with another couple? 


Boom. We just got shafted for another couple. Maybe we should have defined the relationship when we had the chance. (Just kidding...)

But really, good couple friends can be hard to come by. You all have to be similar enough to not drive each other crazy, but different enough to keep it fun and exciting. Sound kind of like regular dating? 
 
When you get past all of the awkwardness of your couple crush, and move on to a couple relationship, count yourself lucky. Make it last. Because dating is weird. Especially when you are dating a couple.

Now that we're moving, I've been able to see just how hard it was for us to make friends. Hopefully we'll stay just as close once we move and eventually we can convince them to move out to Pennsylvania with us. (cough, cough...)



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